In the final weeks of Jeff's life, when it became clear that he was definitely leaving his body, and it became okay with me to admit that to myself and to verbalize that to him, I asked him if there were any way that he could contact me from beyond the physical to let me know that death was what we thought it was, and that everything was okay, to please try to find a way, if he could and he agreed.The night after he died I was haunted by images, every time I would awaken during the night, of Jeff's ordeals in the body his final day, and I prayed that his disease in its final stages hadn't made his transit difficult. I know I was just projecting myself into what he endured, but it didn’t help.
The next night, I awakened several times with a different vision of Jeff that totally put my mind at ease, and the imagery was one that was so unexpected and so appropriate that I knew in my heart that it was not just a projection of my desires.
When you jump off a boat in your scuba gear, you are jumping into another realm, a liquid realm. When you jump in, your mask, your fins, your weights and the regulator (breathing apparatus) are all at risk of becoming dislodged or malfunctioning in the transition, and so after you submerge as you hit the water, and you come back up, if everything is OK and you are good to go, you put your arms in a circle for "O" for Okay, and touch the top of your head before you descend.
Jeff, looking as he always looked before he was ill, gave me the Diver's Okay sign, every time I awoke from a dream that night. To me, the symbolism was so parallel, that I knew that I had received the clearest signal that Jeff could send me that he was just fine and that death definitely Okay.
- Velia Anderson
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